man this shit is my biggest pet peeve. You know what, most women don’t act that way either. So knock it off. If the character happens to be meek and unsure and shy, it just means they’re a meek, unsure, shy character. It does not mean they’re like a girl. It doesn’t not make their relationship like a heterosexual one. It does not mean that it’s just some bogus gay relationship and the mangaka is a cop-out and doesn’t know what the fuck she’s doing. Jesus christ ahhhh. Just because you happen to not like meek, shy, small characters, don’t give some dumbshit bogus reason like “oh well it’s because they’re unrealistic to actual gay men and they act like woman”. Because you know what? There is no such thing as ‘an actual gay man’. All gay men are different, just like straight men. stfu. A man can be small and behave in a meek, submissive manner without suddenly transforming himself into a woman whether he is gay or straight or otherwise inclined.
Not to mention this also gets to me because it kind of insinuates that everyone who does like such a character type is just some loser who doesn’t understand that it’s ~*~not how gay men are supposed to act~*~ these characters aren’t realistic to gay men and they aren’t realistic to women—because characters in BL are not realistic, period. They’re not supposed to be.
Fucking stop unnecessary gender policing ugh. There are few things that piss me off more and this god damn genre is so full of it.
I am a gay guy who enjoys all sorts of BL and characters and this kind of policing frustrates me a ton. It makes me happy to see that there are people who understand that submissive boy does not equal girl.
I wasn’t going to post this here, because the follower count of this blog has risen beyond my expectations and intimates me when posting ~unpopular opinions~, but I think this really needs to be said and the message to get out there. I tried to write something brief to a similar confession here but it’s not well worded. Basically, this type of thinking is insulting to both genders, which I think most people aren’t even aware of.
ps. yaoi is not realistic
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A review by one of the folks sums it up perfectly:
“What worries me about Yahoo! buying Tumblr is how it would choose to incorporate the website into its email and homepage features. One of the reasons why Tumblr is so unique is because it’s a niche market. By adding more users who don’t fit into this niche, it would make it more difficult for communities to develop within Tumblr, and Tumblr would have to change to accommodate these new users. Tumblr as a website is not the kind that you can sign up for in a day and be on your way. It is a website crafted so that you can immediately post but must spend several weeks, sometimes even months, to build a community. With new users who would not be willing to spend time growing a community, Tumblr would have to be changed, which would alienate its current users. Those users have spent time and effort to make Tumblr what it is today, and they are the ones who spend time on the website daily. A user who is checking onto Tumblr because it’s attached to their homepage is not going to be as strong of a user nor as dedicated. By changing the website to suit this new user, you would lose the strong users while building an undedicated usership.
To any website that would think of buying Tumblr, they must understand that it is a website that cannot be changed to make it more user friendly to a casual blogger. I think that many Tumblr users would be less worried about a buy-out if they were promised that their communities and ways of using Tumblr would not be changed. No one is going to mind Yahoo! buying the website and gaining a few extra million dollars per year from the minimal advertising; what we will be upset with is if a company like Yahoo! then changes the website to increase casual users and decrease dedicated users. Yahoo! would gain nothing by losing this “cool” group of bloggers in an age group they so desperately want to reach, so they must cater to these individuals by leaving the website exactly as is.” - houseoftombombadilAs much as is does sound like a load of bullshit for someone to buy Tumblr, it’s a possibility. I Personally think it should stay independent and I hope David Karp keeps a hold of it like his own child. Or we make enough noise to where such major changes (if bought) will not happen. I would hate to see Tumblr turned into an advertising dump.We’re not a ‘hip fad group’ to be marketed to. I hate the fact that’s all we look like to businesses in the end.
reblogging again for this ^
Ugh. Really nervous about this acquisition, especially given that it seems imminent. I recognize that tumblr needs to monetize, and I don’t even object to being subjected to ads to help pay the bills, but I think this route risks changing it beyond recognition—especially with regard to restricting NSFW and (potentially) fandom content.
Let’s all promise to meet at LJ or Dreamwidth or something if everything goes pear-shaped down the road. :/
I’m showing my age by saying this, but I also saw Yahoo buy a number of sites back in the day, amongst them the e-groups site, which they turned into ‘yahoo groups’. The quality plummeted instantly, and the mature content was of course treated much worse than it had been with e-groups. Where they had previously stored images and other files with the messages they were attached to, making for easy and comprehensible reading, when Yahoo got a hold of them, they obliterated these attachments in archive, only allowing them to be sent initially, but never stored. The e-groups community effectively vapourised and yahoo groups exists today…as a relative ghost town.
I would be appalled if tumblr were ‘acquired’ and treated the same way. Hey, yeah, that gif you posted a few months back? Gone. Your updates about your comic? History. The sexy sketch you did? Pfft. tumblr may be lacking sometimes in direction and support, it’s true…but I’d rather have the grievances we have now — relatively minor — than the major problem of an entirely new administration.
I can only see the tumblr community being detrimentally affected by a company like Yahoo buying it. I wish today’s society would stop thinking that ‘acquiring’ things is the way to go. We don’t want a handful of companies controlling everything; in fact, it’s paramount we don’t have that. Censorship and especially discriminatory attitudes towards certain types of content are only furthered by having all these communities bought up and placed in the hands of a tiny few.
tumblr must remain its own. If and when any sale is done, it should not be to an industry giant like Yahoo or Google, but to someone who can remain independent from them, not caving to their nonsense. Because while it may seem like it’s going to be a super-great thing for the company who buys it, it won’t: treat tumblr like any other asinine social networking site and the users will desert it faster than cockroaches when the lights turn on.
Or like those puffballs in Totoro. There are probably a number of gifs of it on tumblr. But those probably won’t be around too much longer if Yahoo buys it up. Just saying.
Over forty years later:
((I will never not reblog this.))
talk about irony (that is a young RDJ right?)
- Stage 1: Hi! How are you today?
- Stage 2: lol ok hi sup
- Stage 3: LOLOL OK WOW HAHA
- Stage 4: oHTFSKJSFN FOFd OD SDJ uR KIDDING lOL SFDKSHD I CANT lliTERALLY SCrREAMING I loVE U OMfG
- Stage 5: HERE'S MY CELL# TEXT ME WHEN I'M IN CLASS PLEASE I LOVE YOU
- Stage 6: when's your birthday
- Stage 7: heresmyhomeaddressandphonenumberandeverythingyouneedtokillme
- Stage 8: married
so i was watching the news and this 2nd grader wrote this to the president, vice president, and a congressman. biden was the only one to respond yet. LITERALLY.
may I present to you Mr. Vice President Bro Biden
‘tsundoku’ - the Japanese word for buying books & not reading them, leaving them to pile up.
The black & white coat! Lots of interesting, pretty designs here.
Esther Heesch for Alexander McQueen Pre-fall 2013
OH GOSH I NEED THESE
This should be a top news story.
Oh my, what a kickass photoset.